THE PUSH AND PULL FACTORS (3)

The climax of this feelings is arrogance. He starts looking at their marriage as the woman's personal issue; if it  breaks she will lose more, he assumes. At this point nothing that his wife does appears done right. The male-female relationship that was supposed to be a mutually supportive liaison becomes a hero worship. The woman would at this point be holding the relationship tenderly like a raw egg; she is afraid lest it fall and break. The root cause of this attitude, which obviously shows diminishing love, is lack of personal relationship with God. God is love, so if a man knows God, he must love his family and treat them with love. 1John 4:8 puts it this way, "He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love." Loving is more than a feeling of being attracted to or happy with someone. It includes choosing to be kind and helpful to others even when one does not feel like it. One other fuel that ignites that push factors is greed. When one's spouse starts thinking that grass is greener elsewhere, one had better start preparing for the great surprise.unproductive ideas can lead a man to fool around outside his home, looking outside for the things that are inside his food shelf.                                                                            I advise the men in this category to look intently before making a commitment; they ought to stop disrupting the lives of quality ladies who would have made good wives to more deserving men. For disappointed women, including me, there is a need to stay focused with a nice goal and look forward for a better future. We are sitting at the edge of a better tomorrow, full of wonderful opportunities and attainable dreams. We should keep the light burning; our dreams will come true if we hold onto them. Like the apostle Pual, we should keep pressing toward the mark for the prize. God has reserved a crown of glory for His faithful servants. His eyes behold the activities of men, He watches mankind from a distance. We should remember that He has promised to supply all our needs-food, husband,or what have you-according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. I know that the best is yet to come because in Haggai 2:9 we read,"The glory of this later house shall be greater than the former, saith the Lord of hosts: and in this place will I give peace, saith the Lord of host."