THE CHANGING FAMILY UNIT (4)

       Not until men and women take a deep breath and examine the parts they are playing in the disorganization of the traditional family lives will any of these nice suggestions for solving teenager pregnancies have a positive effect. A lot of these teenagers are lost. Sex has become the only way to fulfillment they know they use it as has become the only way to fulfilment they know and they use it as a substitute for the love they miss from parents who do not care. It is a way of escape from societal pressures that compounded the regular teenager stresses one goes through as one makes the transition from young to youth                                                                                                                                                  who is to blame? I suggest the parents in particular, and the society in general. We could equally add economic factors complicate the problems our teenagers face, but we should not forget that if dad and mom are glued together, the economic aspect will be minimized. The load is always lighter when shared.                                                                          A lot of are pretty distressed at the state of the family today. The fracturing of the family is at the heart of the problems faced by nations today. It is at the core of many of those ills that plague us today. These days we are focused on fulfillment through individualism, ignoring our obligations to our children. The quality of life is not even getting better.                                                                                                                                        While we all are profoundly affected by the weakened family, children are the hardest hit. Being helpless without alternatives, they become the most vulnerable among us. These are people who most desperately need to be loved and valued, if we want them to be useful to themselves and to society. Children who are not valued are resentful, violent,destructive, poorly motivated to learn,and have more serious emotional problems than others. This could lead to drug abuse and a host of other juvenile delinquencies. Let us therefore give them adequate love and a sense of self-worth because they are the lilies of the garden. Remember, a man can get another wife, and a woman another husband, but the children can never get a new set of biological parents.